What exactly is it that makes being a mum hard? It’s not just one thing, I think its more the sum of all parts. Being a mum is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I’m sure all fellow mums will agree. But obviously with most things in life there are hard parts.
1 of the hard parts about being a mum is having to justify your parenting choices. Whether you breastfeed, bottle feed, co-sleep, I see a lot of parents explaining themselves as to why these are their choices. Every single one of us makes the choices that are right for both us and our babies at that time.
- The constant worrying.
I used to worry about everything when Mia was a baby. The fact they cannot tell you what is wrong you never know how they are feeling. I remember the first time Mia was sick after bringing her home, and its safe to say I sh!t myself. It was just a bit of reflux! I am a lot better now she is older, but I dont think you could ever stop worrying about your children. From the minute your pregnant I think the worrying starts.
- The tiredness.
This is definitely one for the earlier days (or longer). Sleep deprivation is real, ITS REAL. When you have all had a bad night sleep, things need doing, people need feeding, you’re unwell. It can feel tough.
- Watching them grow up.
Seeing them grow stronger and more independent, it is so lovely to watch them flourish, but time goes way to fast. You miss your little bab
y, but you love the little person you get to have conversations and interact with.
- Separation Anxiety
We struggled really bad with separation anxiety. It spiked at around 1o months old and it is heartbreaking. Mia would cry and cry wherever we left her. At the peak of it all she would awake in the night for us. Going back into her room only re-inforces the cries, but leaving her to be sad was just horrible.
There are so many challenges at each stage. With babies you have to cope with exhaustion, the non-stop cycle of feeding, burping, cleaning and comforting. During the toddler years you have to deal with a very opinionated little person who is trying to figure out the world.
With Mia being only 2 1/2 years, I’m probably still yet to experience many harder parts to parenting. What do you think is the toughest part about being a parent?