Helping You Survive The Terrible Twos…

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The terrible two’s. Are they real? I’m afraid so.

All children are different and not every child will go through the same phases at the same time. If your lucky enough to of escaped the terrible twos, don’t hold your breath your child may just about be ready to enter the years of the ‘threenager’.

Let’s be honest, their unpredictable. Your child may all of a sudden start acting irrationally and nothing you try to do will help. There’s screaming, biting, hitting, shouting you name it.

If you follow me on Instagram you would have seen I put a story up allowing people to share their advice for other parents who are going through this phase. So I have put everything together into a post for you, real advice from real parents. Don’t worry if none of these work for you, you will find what works best for you and your child.

Set Boundaries

This one will be slightly easier the older the child. Let your child know what the rules are whether you are at home or out in public.

If there are no toys to be purchased at the shops, make sure you explain this to them before you leave the house. A tantrum is more then likely to occur in the shop if they want something whether they understand the boundary or not.

If this is the case, remove the child from the situation. Take them to the toilet or go outside. Just ensure you do not give into your child’s demands as this will be reinforcing to your child that when they scream/shout you will give in.

Allow Independence

Allowing your child to have choices when it comes to it, will help them feel that little bit more in control and may even stop a tantrum from occurring. Let them choose their pajamas or even choose which veg they would like with their dinner.

My daughter has insisted on choosing her shoes when we go out. So to prevent her from refusing to put shoes on and it takes me 30 minutes to get out the door, I let her choose from 2-3 pairs of similar shoes that are acceptable for the weather.

It has definitely lessened the tantrums!

Discipline

This was a good one and one I also believe needs to be in place. This one is quite hard for the younger ones. It may work best for 3+-year-olds. Sending a 2-year-old to go to theirroom may not benefit in the same way it does an older child.

I found just letting your 2-year-old to shout it out, whilst you turn your back for 10 seconds and catch your cool works better (as long as your child is in a safe spot). As hard as this can be as no one wants to leave their child upset, but once they have calmed down a little you can talk and reason with them.

Emotions

This one can be quite hard to deal with. However, keeping your emotions in check is so important when trying to calm down a screeching toddler. Screaming or laughing at your child is bound to send them into a further rage. I know, I know it can be hard when they are having a tantrum because they ‘don’t want to go’ when you have told them 100 times your not going anywhere and you haven’t even planned to leave the house.

Your reaction will play a role in how long they tantrum for.

If all else fails, order a pizza, pour a wine and forget the day ever happened.

I hope anyone going through one of these phases can gather some advice from this, just remember we all go through it, and we all survive it.

Dani xo

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