Bringing Your Second Child Home…

The unknown of what is to come is most likely what is playing on your mind. When it comes to having your second child you feel like you’ve got it, you understand, you know what you’re doing right?

Pre-kids me used to think I would never let my child sit on an iPad for a long time, I’ll never let them have a happy meal, oh gosh. WRONG. Reality sure hits as soon as you bring that human home.

You have a real person to look after.

Many thoughts will be running through your head when the time comes to bring your second child home.
I used to have the same question niggling my brain for the first month or so.

How will I leave the house with 2 kids on my own?

Will I be able to divide my attention between the 2?

Will this affect my relationship with child number 1?!

But it’s ok, I am human and we all feel these things. Especially with those crazy hormones swimming around your body.  It is completely normal to feel these doubts when coming up to having your second baby.

There are days where everything is on its head, no one naps, no ones listens and you have a toddler representing the acts of a teenager. Offer them the wrong snack and your asking for another world war.

I have been doing this mum of 2 thing for nearing 4 months now. I have days that are amazing, and I have days like described above. But looking back on those first few weeks at home, I wish I had cut myself some slack. It’s not easy adjusting to this new life whilst trying to recover, and feeling those feelings are completely normal.

Looking back, when I was told I was going to be induced with Ava. I had this massive guilt for Mia and the thought of having to leave her scared me. She was absolutely fine with family, but she was also very very ill which made me feel so much worse. I should have been there comforting her but I wasn’t and there was nada I could do about it.

When I had Ava I was so excited for Jack to bring Mia up to meet her baby sister. but guess what. It FAILED. Mia was so poorly she just screamed to go home. She was not interested one bit. At this point, I asked to be discharged from the hospital because I couldn’t take the guilt.

Once we had returned home and Mia was starting to feel herself again, she surprised me with how well she had dealt with this massive change. She had times where she would try and get my attention but she was so understanding. If you are currently pregnant with your second child and worried about how your first will act, try to relax about the situation because these little toddlers of our can take us by surprise sometimes.

There are gonna be times where your house is a complete tip, your toddler is screeching all day, the baby is feeding for the 28th time that morning but remember your killing it, you got it, and you will find your feet.

After a couple of days, you will not remember what life was like without having both of them. Your routine will soon fall into place and everything will adjust. It is all about adjusting in those first few weeks.

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  1. March 21, 2019 / 8:40 am

    I think we often think we have to be perfect or we are failing as mom’s or women. We really should give ourselves more credit. No one expects us to be perfect. We simply do the best we can and love our kids.

    • Dani Shuttleworth
      Author
      March 27, 2019 / 8:27 pm

      Just the perfect words. There is far too much pressure on us these days. Thank you for your comment.
      Dani xx

  2. March 22, 2019 / 6:01 am

    You know, I’ve had five children, and I must say, the hardest transition was from number one to two. It was like, I had a routine with my first child and myself and then here comes this other baby throwing a total wrench. It was so difficult, I think I suffered postpartum and everything. I’m glad to see you are making your way to adjust. Your kiddos are adorable.

    • Dani Shuttleworth
      Author
      March 27, 2019 / 8:26 pm

      That Is exactly what got me. I had a set routine with my oldest and everything went out the window. I guess the more you have it’s easier in terms of learning to adjust. I hope everything is all well an good for you, thank you so much!
      Dani xx

    • Dani Shuttleworth
      Author
      March 27, 2019 / 8:24 pm

      Thank you so much! Dani xx

  3. globalmunchkins82
    March 24, 2019 / 7:10 pm

    Such an important post. I remember feeling very overwhelmed bringing #2 home. After, that it was easy bc the oldest is such a big help with their younger siblings. I have 5 now 🙂

    • Dani Shuttleworth
      Author
      March 27, 2019 / 8:24 pm

      It really is overwhelming, so much to take in. Yes that is lovely that the oldest can help. Wow go you on number 5! I love a large family. Lots of love to give
      Dani xx

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