During your journey of motherhood, you will constantly find yourself saying ‘Why does nobody tell you this?’, ‘Is this normal?’. It’s all the sh*t they dont tell you about being a mother.
I have always loved reading baby blogs, books and searching the internet for tips and advice. If you are also this type of person, I can bet your bottom dollar you have come across a heck load of supermums who only really exist to make the rest of us feel bad.
I’m kidding, if you are a mum who forever has everything together, I salute you, be my friend.
There is so much that nobody tells you about being a parent, there is so much stuff that we don’t dare share. Because let’s face it, half of it is so gross who is going to believe us anyway!
So, let me share with you some of the things that I, and countless other parents, have had to learn along the way. As the title says, ‘What Wikipedia Won’t Tell You About Motherhood’.
- The first couple of days after bringing your new baby home, you will be convinced you have ruined your lives. Now obviously not everybody is going to have these feelings, but if you do, just know that they are completely normal. I remember when I had my first, I brought her home and instantly just thought ‘What have I done’. Bringing home your first baby is like hitting a brick wall. But I can assure you in no matter of time mother nature kicks in and you will fall madly in love with your baby.
- Your kids will love you like you have never been loved before. Wholeheartedly. They love you on your good days and they love you on your bad days, all they ask for in return is for you to love them back.
- Living with children is like living in the eye of a hurricane. Exaggerated? Maybe. Toddlers are like wrecking balls. Your children will sneeze and cough everywhere, your babies will spit up so many times you will become nose blind to the smell of sour milk. You will wear stained clothes out of the house because they are ‘not that bad’.
- You will never feel guilt like motherhood guilt. I struggle with this one, and many mum’s do. These feelings are completely normal. You feel guilty for going to the supermarket on your own, you feel guilty for taking a long bath. Every decision mums seem to make is a potential minefield of guilt. You cant open your browser without someone telling you their right and your wrong.
- Your heart will be torn so wide open. “Making the decision to have a child – it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” – Elizabeth Stone. Having children will make you a better person. Everything they experience will feel like your own. Every rash, fever, illness will make you hurt. You will never feel vulnerability as you will once you have a child loose in the world.
Parenting is hard, but it is the most rewarding job you will ever do. Remember, you’re not doing anything wrong and your feelings are normal.